“It is not easy to dress well. The appearance of a person should be harmonious, and to this effect, all parts need to work together. It can be easier to compose your look from one collection, where everything is coordinated, like in a piece of music. That way every item makes an impact, even the handbag.”—Jil Sander
This pattern — women can dress like men, but men don’t dress like women — suggests that there is, in fact, something demeaning, ridiculous, or subordinating about presenting oneself to the male gaze. Most men feel stupid, gross, or vulnerable when they do it. This isn’t just about conformity to different gendered expectations. If it were just about difference women would feel equally weird dressing in men’s clothes. Instead, when women adopt masculine ways of dressing and moving, they often feel empowered.
So, when men do femininity they feel ridiculous and when women do masculinity they feel awesome. This is what gender inequality looks like.